A 37-year-old woman ditches her corporate job in finance to become a stay-at-home girlfriend and is sharing her ‘rules’ for other women become one too, including staying in your best shape, learning to cook and never dating someone for their potential.
Emily de Rean, from Dallas, Texas, hadn’t always aspired to be a stay-at-home girlfriend but decided to quit her corporate job as a financial analyst after her dad passed away from cancer and she realized life was too short ‘to be unhappy’.
When she met her fiancé, business owner Michael, 40, he encouraged her to stop working so that she would have more time to pursue her true passions, including writing a book, cooking, and social media.
Emily now hopes to become an author – and she spends her days working on her debut book, while also socializing with friends, instead of being ‘restricted’ by a full-time job.
Emily de Rean, 37, quit her job as a financial analyst to become a stay-at-home girlfriend
Texan woman, Emily, now shares her tips and tricks with other women on how to land a man ‘who encourages you not to work’ and shares her rules of being a stay-at-home girlfriend, which include staying in shape, cooking at least three meals a day, and dating someone with financial security
Emily said: ‘I used to work as financial analyst and I started to realize that I didn’t want to be stuck in a corporate job all my life.
‘My dad passed away and it got me thinking if this was really what I wanted to do for my short time on earth.’
‘I met Michael and he encouraged me to stop working – and become a stay-at-home girlfriend – so I could have time to do something more productive.
‘Now I spend my hours doing what I want and have time to look after my body, cook nice meals and spend quality time with friends.’
The aspiring writer, who describes her new lifestyle as a ‘dream’, has now shared her tips for other young women who aspire to become a ‘stay-at-home girlfriend’, explaining that it’s important to find a partner who is at least a few years older and will keep an open mind about having a girlfriend who doesn’t work.
‘I want to help other young women to realize their wants and needs and date accordingly,’ she said.
‘You don’t have to just be a stay-at-home mom, you can aspire to be a young childfree woman not at work.’
Before Emily’s dad passed away, he told her she shouldn’t do something that makes her unhappy, resulting in Emily’s career path change
After Emily’s dream man and now fiancé, Michael told her he didn’t have to work, she knew she had meant her dream man, she now spends her time teaching young women to ‘ never date for potential’
Emily’s top rules for becoming a stay-at- home girlfriend
- Don’t date for financial potential: Date someone who can provide for you financially now
- Learn to cook three meals: Emily says ‘men love home-cooked meals’
- Date someone a few years older: Finding a partner who is a few years older helps you ensure financial security
- Keep in shape: Emily spends her days at the gym, making sure she looks the part of a stay-at-home girlfriend
- Date someone open-minded with a solid career: Emily notes that the most important thing is to ‘make sure your vision aligns with his’
‘All you need to do is find a partner that can help you achieve that lifestyle and has the same vision as you.’
As a 20-year-old, Emily went to college to study finance and worked her way up the career ladder as a financial analyst but after six years in the industry she became tired of the lack of time off and commutes.
‘I wasn’t enjoying it anymore,’ she said. ‘My dad was dying of cancer, and he told me, “If you’re unhappy you should do something else.”‘
Taking he father’s advice, Emily quit her job and started working as a nanny instead.
‘That was lovely, but when I met my fiancé, Michael, he told me I didn’t have to work at all if I didn’t want to,’ she recalled.
‘He told me I’d be able to come with him on work trips and I could do what I wanted to do with the rest of my time.’
Emily spends her time cooking, writing, and posting on social media to give advice to other young women who want to find their ‘dream man’ to meet their needs.
‘I love cooking and men love a home-cooked meal so that’s a plus,’ she said. ‘I think it’s a great tool to have.’
Emily is an advocate for not dating for potential, so women are not wasting their time on men ‘who won’t go anywhere’ and relationships with ‘no quality of life’.
‘There is nothing wrong with a man who wants to be a teacher but if you’re goal is to be a stay-at-home girlfriend then he’ll never be able to provide for that,’ Emily said.
Through her new role, Emily has taught many women first date requirements to make sure you’re dating for potential, including picking you up or calling you a car
Emily notes that ‘staying in shape’ is one of the most important rules as a stay-at-home girlfriend
Although Emily’s standards may seem high, she notes you have to be ‘choosey’ to find your ‘dream man’ who’ll help you achieve stay-at-home girlfriend status
‘You have to be choosey and only date from pool of men that meets your requirements. They need to be financially viable for your needs.
‘You don’t know how a man is going to end up even if he has potential. You should date the finished product.’
Emily also explains some of her red flags for dating if you want a stay-at-home lifestyle.
‘If on a first date he doesn’t offer to pick you up or get you a car that’s not a good sign,’ she said.
‘He should invite you to dinner not coffee and if he is asking to split the bill that’s a red flag.’
Emily is also wary of a man brought up by a woman who had to work a lot of jobs.
‘That woman is a champion but for the man it will set his subconscious to have those expectations,’ she said.
‘If a man has been brought up by a stay-at-home mom, then he’s been conditioned to want that already.
‘I think the most important thing is to make sure your vision aligns with his.
‘Being a stay-at-home girlfriend isn’t for everyone but if it’s what you want and need, you shouldn’t be shamed for it.’