A polyamorous triad who solidified their love by getting ‘married’ in a traditional ceremony, have revealed that they’re still open to including more women in their relationship.
Marketing director Jimmy Silva, 35, and his partner Chacha, 32, from LA, instantly fell for each other when they were introduced by a mutual friend at high school in April 2009.
Their relationship quickly intensified and three years in, they met Summer Pelletier, 25, at the social networking company where they all work.
The couple fell in love with her and decided to officially enter into a polyamorous relationship in December 2012.
The trio became serious in 2018 when Chacha and Summer started talking about having babies and settling down together. Jimmy got down on one knee to propose to both of them on his 10-year anniversary with Chacha in April 2019.
Jimmy Silva and his partner Chacha (right) have been dating since high school, but became polyamorous with another woman, Summer (left) in 2012. The trio has now married
Jimmy, 35, and Chacha, 32, from LA, met Summer, 25, three years after they became a couple, but they didn’t become serious about their three-way relationship until 2018
The wedding preparations took six months to plan, with their ceremony taking place in December 2019, although it was not legally binding.
Chacha and Summer both wore white for the wedding with waist-length veils and had their families in attendance at the ceremony.
However, Jimmy’s family were not convinced of his relationship and threatened to disown him when he invited them to the special occasion.
Their wedding took place at the same location that they got engaged, the Ventura Beach Club, which is managed by Summer’s family.
While they are in a committed relationship, the three are mutually attracted to women and share a fantasy to include more women in their love triangle as well as to have babies in the near future.
Summer said: ‘The wedding prep was probably stressful for everyone but us. We had an agreement to make the day the best it could be and didn’t let the little things get to us.
They had some traditional wedding elements, like practicing the dance in advance and keeping the dresses hidden. They also embarked on a honeymoon in Thailand (pictured)
‘We chose to take our own spin on a traditional ceremony and not see each other the night before the wedding.
‘Chacha and I didn’t let Jimmy see the dresses either until the day of the wedding and that made the day really special for him because he felt that part was just for him.
How much did the wedding cost?
The trio did a lot of DIY to keep the costs low:
- Decorations $500
- Flowers $200
- Two bridal dresses £3,000
- Food $1,500
- Rings $5,000
- DJ $600
- Photographer $1,500
- Officiator $300
- Cakes and deserts $600
- Limousine ride to the airport for their honeymoon $500
- TOTAL SPEND: $14,000
‘We practiced our dance for a couple months trying to make it perfect and it seemed the day of stressing over the dance just melted off and it came out absolutely perfect.
‘We arrived, we all married each other in the presence of most of our family, we ate, we drank, and we danced the night away, it really was the most beautiful day of our polyamory relationship.
‘Not seeing each other the night before was a challenge because Chacha and I always get ready together. But seeing them at the end of the aisle waiting for me was the moment that changed my life.
‘She looked more beautiful than I have ever seen anyone in my life; very angelic. He was so handsome in his suit.
‘It was really unreal. I didn’t think much would change but after we got married, everything just felt so whole and solid.
‘I felt so beautiful in my dress, and I’m so happy I shared this day with my favorite people. I laughed, I cried, I drank my favorite tequila, I ate the best food, and my cheeks hurt at the end of the day at how hard I was smiling.’
Summer claims everything felt ‘whole and solid’ after they got married. Pictured: Their wedding rings
The triad had to plan their own ceremony because organizers don’t cater to weddings with more than two people, budgeting they spent $14,000. Pictured left to right: Chacha, Summer and Jimmy during their honeymoon in Thailand
Chacha revealed their wedding was the first time that their families and friends came together. Pictured: The triad with another girl
Since wedding planners don’t cater for weddings with more than two people, Jimmy, Chacha and Summer had to organize everything themselves.
Describing how their special day felt, Chacha said: ‘I felt like I was in a fairy-tale and the whole time I could not stop smiling. I felt prepared, relaxed, happy and got to enjoy every minute of it.
‘Those who came to celebrate with us made the whole event feel like a holiday. Magic was in the air helping us mix our families and friends together for the first time.
‘It felt amazing having our love presented in such ceremony of three making us an official one love. My family is accepting of our relationship because they truly love me unconditionally and see the happiness that exists in our relationship.
‘They love being included and as part of our unique love. Every day we get a call, text or a post of social media as a reminder that they’ve got our backs against all the people who feel otherwise.’
Having accomplished their goals of buying a house and getting married, they are now focusing their time on new life goals. The triad hope to meet one or more women to join their polyamorous relationship, and are also hoping to have children in the near future.
Jimmy explained what it has been like for his family and the trio’s future plans.
‘My family has probably been the least supportive all along. They kind of pretend my relationship doesn’t exist,’ he said.
Jimmy claims his family haven’t been supportive of their relationship and pretend that their type of arrangement doesn’t exist. Pictured: Summer, Jimmy and Chacha with family on their wedding day
Jimmy who had one cousin attend the wedding, said his family wanted to disown him when they were invited. Pictured: Chacha with Jimmy and Summer
The married polyamorous triad are mutually attracted to women and have a fantasy of being intimate with more women
‘When I invited them to my wedding, they wanted to disown me. I only had one cousin attend my wedding because my immediate family asked the rest of my family not to support.
‘They treated me as if I am doing something wrong, and it’s sad. I am since talking to them again, but they’re back to pretending that my relationship doesn’t exist.
‘I feel our communication on goals has strengthened with time. We have solidified our five-year plan, which includes owning property, having kids in the future, and more currently planning to attend a huge festival called Friday Night Sesh Festival in Adelanto, California where we will be having our first Polyamory booth at to spread awareness on polyamorous love.
‘To us, actions speak a whole lot louder than words. We vowed to love each other unconditionally and show each other every day how much we love one another.
‘We are still very much open. If we find a girl, we all like and we agree to take her on a date, that’s normally how it happens.
‘We are mutually attracted to women and we are open to the idea of more women joining our love and our life. Our current fantasy involves one or more women being intimate with all of us at the same time.
‘Our goal is to spread awareness that our relationship, although seemingly taboo, really isn’t. We want more people to know how we live our life.
Jimmy said they want their love and life to be normalized, as their goals is to legalize polyamory marriages
Jimmy revealed that they’re hoping to try for children in the near future. Pictured: Summer, Jimmy and Chacha having their first dance as their wedding
‘We know it interests so many people, and if we aren’t talking about it, it will stay behind closed doors like it has for so many years.
‘We want our love and life to be normalized. A major goal for us would be to legalize polyamory marriage, and we hope to band together with more people who are like-minded.
‘This is why we are going to be setting up a booth at the Friday Night Sesh festival in hopes to spread more awareness.
‘We do hope to try for kids in the near future. People love our wedding photos, and we do too! It’s really unique because there’s two brides and a groom, it definitely makes you look twice, or three times.’