Maria Fowler posted ‘unfiltered’ snaps taken during her C-section as she encouraged women to share ‘real and imperfect birth stories’ on Thursday.
The former TOWIE star, 35, who is the proud mum of two daughters Evie, five, and Nellie, 13 months, discussed her birthing journey with her youngest child in the post.
She told fans that we are often bombarded with pictures of ‘perfect and filtered’ snaps when mothers have just been through labour, leaving some feeling like they’ve ‘failed’.
Candid: Maria Fowler posted ‘unfiltered’ snaps taken during her C-section as she encouraged women to share ‘real and imperfect birth stories’ on Thursday
She posed two snaps on Instagram, the first of Nellie being handed to her after her operation and a second of them in hospital beds together afterwards.
She penned: ‘Doctors, screen, incisions, not what I expected. The first born birth I missed. I was asleep, general anaesthetic.
‘This time I was hoping to push push and hear her cry, have a natural birth, the way nature intended. The time comes. 9am, pre booked, New nightie, No breakfast.
Family: The former TOWIE star, 35, who is the proud mum of two daughters Evie, five, and Nellie, 13 months, discussed her birthing journey with her youngest child (right) in the post
‘Blood, cuts, quiet discussion. It’s not a natural birth but this time I will see it, see her lifted. Feelings and emotions flowing through me, through him. He holds my hand. Apprehensive, he too missed the first birth.
‘Spinal in, cut slowly. 5 layers and It’s time. Screen lowered, baby lifted. Vernix & blood, like a natural birth. I see her tiny body, I hear her cry, I cry.’
She continued: ‘My second born but first birth experience. Nellie Maria. 7lb 2oz I hear them say. Daddy cuts the cord, I get the first hold. It’s not textbook perfect but it’s enough. She’s here she’s safe.
Honest: She penned: ‘Doctors, screen, incisions, not what I expected. The first born birth I missed. I was asleep, general anaesthetic…’
‘For many mums the birth is the start of a new journey. We might have to heal physically, even mentally. Sometimes our babies need time to heal too, sometimes premature they need more time to grow. Early babies, angel babies, so many experiences.
‘Forceps, C sections, General anaesthetic, you’re not alone. I have teamed with @frida_uk to share my real birth story and encourage you to do the same. Lets break taboos and encourage conversation.
She signed off by saying: ‘We are often painted a picture of others birth experiences, perfect and filtered and it can make us feel like we have failed. You haven’t failed. You don’t need to expect perfection your body is incredible and no matter how you bring your baby into the world you are amazing.’
Body positive: Maria previously shared a candid snap of her Caesarean scar following the birth of her second daughter
It comes after earlier this year Maria spoke out about how Instagram can be deceiving for promoting how women’s bodies can ‘bounce back’ shortly after giving birth.
The star took to the social media site to show how two photos taken ‘seconds apart’ showed her post-partum figure differently.
In one photo, Maria looked toned but said she was ‘breathing in to within an inch of her life’, while the other showed her stomach in a relaxed state.
Maria wrote: ‘Smoke and mirrors, ‘How I lost my pregnancy weight in 2 weeks’… I didn’t. Both photos are taken seconds apart.
‘There were no supplements. No crazy diets, skinny jabs, ketones, no quick fixes. All it involved was a better pose.
‘There is nothing wrong with either photo, and nothing wrong with wanting to look your best in photos.
‘I could post a plethora of photos like the first one, showing you how ‘incredible’ I look 3 months postpartum and but I am aware I have a responsibility to be real with you, I don’t want people to see my page and feel a failure, that you’re not enough.’
Comparison: It comes after earlier this year Maria spoke out about how Instagram can be deceiving for promoting how women’s bodies can ‘bounce back’ shortly after giving birth
Maria told her followers the photo on the left ‘isn’t representative of how I look’ because she stood on her tiptoes and breathed in ‘to within an inch of my life’.
The reality star said she isn’t going to ‘push myself to look like first photo’ but is conscious about eating in moderation and exercise.
She continued: ‘I used to only post photos where I looked perfect and to be honest its quite stressful, you just create so much pressure on yourself.
‘Yesterday I looked back to a photo 4 years ago of me when I just had Evie and I wondered how I looked so good back then and why don’t I look that good now after having Nellie, then I realised I had the high waisted leggings on, I had the perfect pose and lighting – in real life, I didn’t really look like that at all.
‘If myself (knowing all of the tricks of the trade) can feel rubbish looking at my old perfect pictures after having Evie, I can imagine a lot of you on Instagram feel the same looking at other ‘influencers’ photos.’
Maria said she wanted to remind her followers that the picture perfect posts they see on Instagram is all down to ‘the right pose, the right angle and the right lighting’.
She concluded: ‘This isn’t about bashing photos of perfection, this is just to remind you how it is often achieved and that a lot of what you see online is smoke and mirrors.’
Smoke and mirrors: The star took to the social media site to show how two photos taken ‘seconds apart’ showed her post-partum figure differently
Last October Maria revealed she had given birth to her second child. She announced the news on social media and penned: ‘Nellie Maria Batey. 29th September 2020 9.31am 7lb 2oz.’
‘Delivery was incredible. We’re both home and well. Our hearts are so full, she is just perfect. Thank-you to all at Derby Royal hospital for everything, Ward 314 you were all amazing.’
Maria married Kelvin Batey on 27 July 2019, three years after welcoming daughter Evie.
Maria was diagnosed with SPD (Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction) a condition that causes pain in the pelvic region and is very common in pregnancy, and needed crutches before the birth of her first child.
Family: She told fans that without her scars she ‘wouldn’t have her babies’ or be married to a ‘good man’ (pictured with husband Kelvin Batey and their daughters)