Jana Kramer had a ‘rebirth’ after divorcing her ex-husband Mike Caussin.
During an appearance on Catt Sadler’s Dear Media podcast, It Sure Is A Beautiful Day, Jana, 38, revealed she had forgiven her ex-husband and was ‘happy’ to have gone through her divorce as it taught her to be more ‘mindful’ of her desires.
‘My divorce didn’t kill me. Nothing is going to kill me after my divorce, you know, unless it has something to do with my kids… that was one of the hardest things I ever had to walk through that was excruciating and incredibly painful.
‘I’m so happy that I did go through that’: Jana Kramer said she experienced a ‘rebirth’ after divorcing her ex-husband Mike Caussin
‘And I don’t wish it upon anyone, but having said that, like, it has also been the most beautiful kind of like, rebirth and I’m so happy that I did go through that because now I can really be mindful of what I want.’
Jana was married to Mike for six years before filing for divorce in 2021. They share daughter Jolie, six, and son Jace, three.
In her filing she cited ‘inappropriate marital conduct, irreconcilable differences and adultery.’ She revealed the separation had been finalized in July 2021.
Jana also discussed how a letter her therapist had her write to herself from the perspective of Mike helped her in her healing journey.
‘It was never real’: ‘What I was holding onto was a vision of a family that never existed,’ Kramer said on the podcast
‘I’ve definitely forgiven Mike,’ she explained. ‘I realized that for like a year I was holding on to waiting for an apology and I kind of realized that I’m never going to get it the way that I want it and the words that I want spoken.’
‘Even though it wasn’t his word, it’s what I needed to hear,’ she said of the letter. ‘And it was so like healing and so helpful. And I remember like, just going like, okay, you know, I don’t want to have to be the one to carry this stuff, like he doesn’t care anymore…
‘Forgiveness isn’t for the other person, it is for me so that I don’t have to be shackled down by the past and the infidelities and the lies and like the ruminating of it.’
She also said she would have ‘fought forever’ to keep their family together, but acknowledged she could not ‘fight alone.’
‘I’m working my butt off to support my kids’: Kramer shares daughter Jolie, six, and son Jace, three, with her ex
‘It’s exhausting and it’s mentally like, I’m sick of talking about it… I just have to let that piece go… Of course it sucks and there’s days like tonight I don’t have my kids… as much as I need some time alone, it’s also like, I never would’ve wanted my family apart and I would have fought forever.’
‘You can’t fight alone and we weren’t meant to live together forever. And it sucks that like, because of his choices, I had to file for divorce, but… I can’t harp on things that could have been different because what good does that do? Like it doesn’t do me any good.’
Jana also admitted she was holding onto a vision of a family she never really had.
‘This is what we are. We’re a family of three and I’m working my butt off to support my kids. And yesterday I wish I had my family 1000%, but I don’t wish that I had that family. That’s the thing too.
‘What I was holding onto was a vision of a family that never existed. It was what I had in my mind. It was never real. So it’s just what I believed and hoped and wanted and dreamt of. But the reality was is that’s not who he was. That’s not who we were.’
Jana, who is single again following her recent split from trainer Ian Schinelli, is now taking a break from dating.
‘I just really want to focus on me, the kids, go to that retreat and just learn to love myself. And before I step in to any relationship, I have to know that I am like so strong.
‘Knowing that there’s going to be boundaries and consequences, like for the next ones, because I just keep doing myself a disservice and becoming somebody that I’m not when I allow certain things to happen over and over again.’
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