Emily Ratajkowski has shared a rare glimpse into her life at home with her son Sylvester as she detailed her attempts to ‘protect’ her child from ‘toxic masculine culture.’
In a spread for Interview Magazine, the model, 30, can be seen playing with her son, seven months, and her husband Sebastian Bear-McClard at their New York City loft.
In the latest sit-down to promote her book of essays My Body, Emily discussed the three ‘M’s: men, money and motherhood,’ while also discussing how she’s teaching Sylvester to be ‘aware of the power dynamics between men and women.’
Open: Emily Ratajkowski has shared a rare glimpse into her life at home with her son Sylvester as she detailed her attempts to ‘protect’ her child from ‘toxic masculine culture’
The images showed Emily in a simple black sweater and a pair of cargo pants, as she doted on her son with her producer husband of three years.
In the images her abundance of love for her family was evident and revealed a typical day in her life as she gave Sly a bottle and marveled at the little moments in his development.
She did however discuss feeling ‘protective’ over her son in a culture of toxic masculinity which contributed to her sordid dealings with men, as she spoke about the gendered politics of raising a boy versus a girl.
Motherhood: In the interview Emily admitted to feeling ‘protective’ of son Sly in a culture of toxic masculinity which became apparent in her often sordid dealings with men as chronicled in My Body
Multi-tasking: Wearing a simple black cardigan and cargo pants she gave Sylvester aka ‘Sly’ a bottle while chatting with her husband off camera
Quiet moments: One photo showed her son napping in her arms as she carried him in a leopard sling
‘My son, babies, have this genderless quality to them, and so I love affording that to him right now. I’ve just been treating him as this wonderful little human who’s being introduced to the world,’ she said.
‘…The best I can do is teach him compassion, and about these power dynamics that men don’t have to inspect in the way that women do, and make him aware of them and make him care about them.
‘How’s that going to happen? I’m not entirely sure,’ she confessed, adding that she thinks the culture she talks about in her book — which includes being objectified and sexual assault — is ‘very bad for men.’
‘I also think that this culture that I’m writing about in the book, is very bad for men. There are books about how bad it is for men. I see it in my life, the ways that it limits men, and how depressing their existence and their lives can be when they have to adopt this toxic masculinity. So I also feel incredibly protective of him in the same way I would with a daughter, from this culture.’
Protective: ‘My son, babies, have this genderless quality to them, and so I love affording that to him right now,’ she shared before adding that as man she hoped to ‘teach him compassion, and about these power dynamics’ which have negatively impacted her life as a woman
Compassionate: Emily maintained overall ‘I think there just aren’t good and bad men,’ and said she does feel some level of compassion towards the complexity of gender politics in the current culture
She maintained overall: ‘I think there just aren’t good and bad men. Yes, it’s not all men, and at the same time, it’s all men.’
Additionally Emily spoke about the complicated nature of her modeling career, saying that immediately she saw the correlation between money and freedom and money and beauty.
‘Autonomy and freedom and control come with money, and I knew that at a very young age,’ she said.
‘…Everybody also always reminded me that modeling has a very specific window and that if you don’t do it when you’re young and beautiful, it goes away. So I made the decision to jump on that, directly into an industry that when I got sick with the flu and lost some weight, I watched the number on the scale go down and the number of my paychecks go up.’
Dissociating: In her book she had talked about her coping mechanism of dissociating from her body after years of objectification and said she only feels at one with her body during sex
Home body: In the images her abundance of love for her family was evident and revealed a typical day in her life as she gave Sly a bottle and marveled at the little moments in his development
Famously Emily had detailed an instance of sexual abuse from Robin Thicke on the set of Blurred Lines where he groped her breasts while he was intoxicated.
She confessed to burying it at the time, and spoke about how she tried to focus on the ‘money’ aspects of many of these projects where she was taken advantage of, as she felt like her ‘power’ came from paychecks.
‘I grew up in the early aughts, and I’d seen what powerful women looked like. To me they were Britney Spears, and then there were powerful men who were presidents. That was sort of my understanding.
‘So of course I wanted that, but I’d really hardened myself and thought, “I’m never going to have that kind of power, so I’m just going to make as much money as I can.” That meant often, as I write in the book, feeling like a mannequin, working with men who were maybe twice my age and stripping down and turning into their fantasy.’
Power: She also recalled how her idea of ‘power’ differed from men and women and said that she focused on making money which often meant ‘working with men who were maybe twice my age and stripping down and turning into their fantasy’
Instances of objectification and feeling like a ‘mannequin’ eventually caused her to disassociate from her body as a coping mechanism.
In her book she very candidly wrote about how the dissociation had caused her to work hard to become one with her body again, which she experiences most during sex.
However she added that while getting intimate with her husband she likes to look in the mirror during the act ‘so I can see that I’m real.’
Ahead of the bombshell book of essays launch, Emily had said in her interview that had anxiety about its reception which caused her to lose weight — another instance of her body taking on trauma.
‘I have so much anxiety about this. I’ve lost a bunch of weight in the past month because I’m concerned and scared. My body has actually responded to the desire to how this book will be received and it’s a continuation of the metaphor,’ she confessed.
Her body: Ahead of the bombshell book of essays launch, Emily had said in her interview that had anxiety about its reception which caused her to lose weight — another instance of her body taking on trauma