Bride-to-be is shocked by ‘rude’ guest’s wedding RSVP response – sparking a heated debate over who was in the wrong
- An American bride sent out her wedding invitations in February before COVID-19
- One of her guests replied by selecting ‘decline with regret’ and left a message
- The message read that between work and the virus it’s ‘not going to happen’
- The wedding, which was meant to go ahead on May 30, was left up in the air
- She has now decided to cancel it but is appalled by the message left on the card
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A bride-to-be who was planning on tying the knot in May was shocked by a ‘rude’ message one of her guests left on the invitation, stating that between work requirements and COVID-19 it’s ‘not going to happen’.
The anonymous American woman, who wanted to walk down the aisle on May 30, sent out her invitations in February, just before the global pandemic forced most of the world into a lockdown.
She posted a photo of the returned invitation with the message to Facebook ‘shaming’ the guests for their response.
‘Shaming the guests who thought this was appropriate. I sent out invites before the pandemic began and I just got postponement cards in the mail,’ she said.
She posted a photo of the returned invitation with the so-called inappropriate message to Facebook ‘shaming’ the guests for their response
But not everyone was so sure the returned message was out of line, particularly since China was already experiencing the effects of the coronavirus in January.
‘Personally I don’t consider sending out invites in February “pre-pandemic”. There were pretty clear indications the virus was going to hit the US in late January. People were already staying home in February,’ one woman said.
‘I’m not hugely mad about this. It sounds like they’re talking about them (work being a them thing) than the wedding going ahead at all. Even if they were, they aren’t wrong. I can’t imagine going to a wedding in May. I wouldn’t go to a wedding in May,’ said another.
The bride returned to the photo to post an updated comment, this time trying to clear up some of the ‘misunderstandings’.
‘I am not having a reception and my party was supposed to be May 30th. It was recently postponed by my venue and I was waiting for them to make the call based on the New York State pause being extended to May 15th,’ she said.
‘My immediate family was made aware and guests who lived out of state. I am a registered nurse working on a COVID unit so this has been a stressful time regardless of getting married or not.
‘I personally was just taken back by the writing on the RSVP card as I didn’t think that was a thing people do.’
While the hurtful return to sender was likely the cause of the issue, there were still people who thought this ‘wasn’t that big of a deal’
While the hurtful return to sender was the cause of the issue, there were still people who thought this ‘wasn’t that big of a deal’.
‘I think you’ve read too much into the person’s comment,’ said one reply.
‘I mean I don’t blame them… you’re still having a gathering mid-pandemic. Maybe they have family affected by the virus and they’re annoyed you’re even throwing an event that could put lives in danger?’ Said another.
Others agreed with the bride and said the wording was ‘cruel’ and they could have phrased it differently so as not to hurt her feelings.