One of Australia’s most famous sex workers revealed she’s had worse experiences with men in her personal life than when she worked as a high-class escort.
Amanda Goff, 49, said she has suffered more trauma using her real name than during the ten years she spent as ‘Samantha X’.
Ms Goff started working as an escort when she was in her late thirties but decided to leave the sex industry last year in a bid to reclaim her life.
She told Daily Mail Australia the financial and emotional support she received from clients meant she was finding it hard to date as a ‘normal’ woman.
‘As Amanda, I’ve been sexually assaulted a few times, stalked, harassed, had to get restraining orders and been emotionally and physically abused,’ she said.
‘But as Samantha, I had nothing but clients who were polite, respectful and genuine. Some of them have become good friends.’
Amanda Goff, 49, (pictured) said she has experienced more trauma as Amanda than the ten years she spent working in the adult industry under the moniker ‘Samantha X’
Ms Goff (pictured with her dog) told Daily Mail Australia that the financial and emotional support she received from clients meant she was finding it hard to date as a ‘normal’ woman
Ms Goff admitted she was ‘so out of touch’ when it came to navigating the dating world as Amanda because she had enjoyed so much power as Samantha.
‘With a client, there’s established boundaries, mutual respect and communication before you even meet up. There’s no feeling of being used,’ she said.
‘Men I’ve gone on dates with think I’m going to be this intimating, experienced woman who is overtly sexual.
‘They assume that I’m an expert, that I’m into swinging. But in reality I’m nervous.
‘I’m actually very traditional and old-fashioned.’
When Ms Goff worked as an escort she became comfortable with the ‘snapshots of intimacy’ she experienced with her clients.
Now, she worries about being ghosted and striking the right balance between promiscuity and having clear boundaries – just like any other woman.
‘I do miss the connection. Maybe I should hire an escort,’ she joked.
After leaving escorting last year, Ms Goff worries about being ghosted and striking the right balance between promiscuity and having clear boundaries – just like any other woman
Ms Goff said she can understand why women make the choice to be an escort, but is wary of glamourising the job – which she says does have its dangers
‘Now that we’re all connected by technology we’re actually less connected than we’ve ever been. We treat each other as if we’re disposable.’
Ms Goff said she can understand why women make the choice to be an escort, but is wary of glamourising the job – which she says does have its dangers.
‘To be an escort you have to be mentally strong and have a lot of life experience. This job is not for the faint-hearted,’ she said.
Before her life as a a sex worker, Ms Goff said she didn’t have any boundaries, was afraid of offending a man or a date, and didn’t know how to say no.
‘No is a full sentence, its important that woman know that,’ she said.
She said the dire state of the dating world is also down to men, revealing many had admitted to her they ‘don’t know how to act around women anymore’.
‘They don’t want to be accused of sexual harassment, some of them are too scared to even look at women these days, they’re losing their role in society,’ she said.
On Monday night Ms Goff invited sex workers to share their experience of the industry with her Instagram fans.
One woman admitted she felt safer doing FSSW (full-service sex work) in a legal brothel than walking home alone at night.
The woman explained that sex work felt safer than when she worked a corporate job where men would make advances or send her inappropriate messages.
Ms Goff agreed that she had more ‘scary situations’ as Amanda, than Samantha X.
Ms Goff became a high-class escort when she was in her late thirties but decided to hang up her stilettos last year in a bid to reclaim her life
‘People feel uncomfortable at that truth, that somehow it’s comforting to think sex work is some dangerous scary sin,’ she said.
‘But the man most likely to kill you is your husband.’
For now, Ms Goff will focus her energy on several upcoming projects, including mentoring, an upcoming novel and an eight-part series based on her life.
‘I don’t know how to be Amanda. I’ve lost the art of going on a normal date,’ she said.
‘I love men, they are very simple creatures living in a very complicated world. I love being a woman and embracing my femininity – but do it for yourself, not for men.’
Life as a ‘Madam’ at an escort agency revealed:
Amanda Goff has worked as a Madam at an escort agency, where she was tasked with hiring sex workers.
She told Daily Mail Australia she was hesitant to employ women under the age of 30 due to the amount of ‘life experience’ required for the job.
Ms Goff was approached by ‘women who worked in the tax department, for the government, high-profile tv presenters and single mums’.
She received interest from married women who wanted to escort in secret as well as women whose husbands knew they were doing it.
‘To be an escort you have to be mentally strong and have a lot of life experience. It’s not a job for the faint-hearted,’ she said.
‘I’ve seen women in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and even 60s become sex workers. Maybe their husband has left them with the kids, or with no money.
‘I watched as their confidence, bank balance grew and self-esteem grew.’