Alicia Silverstone has revealed that she still sleeps next to her 11-year-old son Bear Blu, insisting that their co-sleeping arrangement is a more ‘natural’ way of doing things.
The 45-year-old opened up about her unique dynamic with her only child during a wide-ranging interview on The Ellen Fisher Podcast, during which she claimed that she is simply ‘following nature’ by sleeping alongside her tween son, who she shares with ex-husband Christopher Jarecki.
‘Bear and I still sleep together,’ the actress explained during the July 19 episode, comparing her co-sleeping arrangement to humans trying to survive in any kind of ‘wild setting’.
‘If you were in any kind of wild setting where there are wild animals, if you put you baby over there your baby is going to get eaten,’ she said while pointing away from herself. ‘So it’s not ideal for the baby to be over there.’
The Clueless star and author of the books The Kind Diet and The Kind Mama, who follows the attachment style of parenting, also spoke out about how she rarely used diapers while potty-training her son from the age of six months and noted that she has never raised her voice with him.
Mothering style: Alicia Silverstone, 45, opened up about motherhood and about how she raises her 11-year-old son Bear, who she shares with her ex-husband Christopher Jarecki
The mother-of-one said that she still sleeps with her tween son, claiming that she is simply ‘following nature’ by sharing a bed with him
The San Francisco native then joked that she would likely ‘be in trouble’ with mom-shamers, but added that at this point in her life ‘I don’t really care.’
She proceeded to sum up her style of parenting by calling herself ‘a natural mama’ and ‘a loving mama’, focusing on gentle communication and cutting out things like TV from the family home.
‘I believe in love, I believe in nature and our society is scared of nature and love,’ she said in response to any criticism.
‘The things I’m doing I’m not inventing, I didn’t invent any of it. I would love to take credit for all of it but it’s not me unfortunately, it’s just me following nature.’
‘I’m just wanted to do what was healthiest for him at every turn so every choice I make is either built on instinct or deep research.’
Remembering back when Bear was a newborn and toddler, Alicia revealed that she rarely used diapers during the potty-training phase, and instead ‘watch[ed] his cues’ to figure out when it was time for a bathroom trip.
‘Loving mama’: ‘Bear and I still sleep together,’ the Clueless star explained during the July 19 episode, noting that she’s just ‘following nature’ with her parenting style
Animal rights: After listing off all the various health benefits she’s seen in her own body, Silverstone admitted she didn’t know she would have all these benefits because she initially stopped eating animal products for the animals
‘It’s so awesome. It’s so easy,’ she said in reference to his bodily cues, adding, ‘When I was done feeding him, he would go to the bathroom in the toilet. When he woke up from a nap, he went to the bathroom.’
The actress and author confessed there was a period of time when she watched him when he was naked to look for those cues.
‘The cues part for me was really fun because I thought that he was flirting with me because he would do this little smile. That’s when he had to pee,’ she explained.
It turns out even her ex-husband dismissed some of her mothers initially as ‘hippie s**t’, but he has since changed his tune and has come to appreciate the process.
‘He loved it. He was like “this works!” she said of Jarecki’s change of heart on those natural cues.
The doting mum also added of her gentle approach to parenting that she has never yelled at her son, instead trying to respect him in their conversations.
Son’s father all in now; It turns out even her ex-husband dismissed some of her mothers initially as ‘hippie s**t’, but he has since changed his tune and has come to appreciate the process
Her philosophy: ‘If you were in any kind of wild setting where there are wild animals, if you put you baby over there your baby is going to get eaten,’ she said of her mothering style, while pointing away from herself
‘I’ve never had a need to raise my voice. I never yell at him and I say sorry a lot,’ she explained, adding that if she is busy and feeling overwhelmed she will ask Bear to write down everything he wants to speak about to come back to at a later date.
The star also revealed she always wanted more than one child, but the timing wasn’t right.
‘Being a mum is the most precious, most unbelievable experience in this world and it’s not for everyone and anybody who doesn’t want to do it shouldn’t do it, but for me it’s so divine,’ she said.
‘That’s why I want to savor every moment of his life. I wanted to have more but then my relationship got messed up and it wasn’t a great time to bring one in but I didn’t want to have another one right away because I was so in love with my Bear that I wanted to squeeze every moment out of him.’
‘It wasn’t until he was like three that I was ready to make another baby but I didn’t have partners so that’s why I don’t have four babies.’
Silverstone has shared her passions for natural living ever since she gained widespread recognition following her roles in The Crush (1993) and Clueless (1995), even if it was met with ridicule and laughter, which was sometimes the case.
The Real Heal with Alicia Silverstone host also revealed some of the health benefits she’s seen in her own body after going vegan.
‘I think at the end of the day the proof is in the pudding,’ she said of a diet of fruits and vegetables.
‘What happened to me when I went vegan, when I stopped just yelling to people about it, was that my skin changed, my hair changed, my nails changed. I got off my asthma inhaler, I stopped taking allergy shots twice a week, and my body slimmed up.’
She continued, ‘All my cystic acne went away, the whites of my eyes got really white. You couldn’t not bend my nails anymore, and they were so brittle before. And I stopped needing to go to the doctor. I stopped needing medication, I stopped needing anything, and that was so powerful.’
Silverstone went on to share that she didn’t know she would have all these benefits because she initially stopped eating animal products for the animals.